And it was.
|The shirt, hat and boots were birthday shopping treasures from Grandma|
Being Dani's mom has been easier on me than being Sarah's mom. I have mentioned before how different everything is for the oldest kid. It seems there is a microscope to examine every decision with the oldest child to see if it is right or wrong so that we can adjust, if needed, for the younger children. Something I have learned in thirteen years of motherhood is that there's not much I can do about that -- there's a part of me that knows I can't stop it no matter how hard I try. With Dani, the same can be said for how much pressure is lifted. Because I've over-analyzed my decisions before, I know it's not worth it and I simply allow things to happen with Dani much more than I can ever seem to do with Sarah. (This is a benefit all the younger children seem to enjoy.)
With Dani, I don't think about whether it's time to have "the talk" with her, knowing she probably has all the information she needs already, courtesy of a big sister. I don't think about Dani going off to college or hitting that point in her life nearly as much as I do with Sarah, and even then, I don't think all that hard about the logistics of it. I just figure it will happen when it happens and we'll figure it out at the time.
I think Dani's personality reflects this more laid-back attitude in that she enjoys living in the moment. Of all my kids, she is the one that I think enjoys being whatever age she is, or fully lives every experience of the grade she is in school. I love that about her. And she's always been that way. Just last year, I thought I should address some more "grown-up" topics with Dani and as I led into the conversation, she simply said, "Mom, I don't need to know that stuff -- I'm just a kid!!"
|Her first heat winner this summer was classic! She was EXCITED!!|
|One of my favorite recent pictures with Dani (and with her cousin, Jenna)|
So, as she turns eleven, I hope she continues to enjoy this last year before middle school. I know that the day will come when her surroundings and experiences will chip away at that innocence. Somehow, I have a peace knowing that as it happens, she will be ready. Because that's how she rolls.
Happy Birthday, Dani!!