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March 20, 2012

When You Say Nothing

A few weeks ago, I heard the song that Craig and I danced to at our wedding on the radio, and I thought about blogging it.  Then Katie at NFP and Me came up with a great idea for a link up!  So I've kind of blended my idea for my post with hers.  Her questions helped provide some direction.  :)

What's your song? When You Say Nothing At All - Keith Whitley

Share a video if there is one?

Did you always have a song or did you have to find one?

Craig and I didn't really have a song as we were going through the process of planning our wedding.  We both loved music, but had a variety of tastes.  Craig's taste in music is quite varied by a large margin.  He really likes the band 311 but is also a big Johnny Cash fan and then he enjoys Barenaked Ladies, and I know his iTunes play lists include U2, Beastie Boys, Bruce Springsteen, Elvis Presley, Neil Diamond, Rush, Grateful Dead... you get my drift.  He's been known to jam to some rap on occasion as well.

I go through phases with music.  Sometimes I'm a country girl.  Sometimes I'm an Elders (Celtic Rock) girl.  Sometimes I am an 80's hairband girl.  Sometimes I blast Tone Loc (Funky Cold Medina!) or Sir Mix-a-lot ("Baby got Back!") or Boys II Men.  Many days I love Journey.  These days I am a Taylor Swift girl.  Usually whatever I am in the mood for sticks around for awhile and then I will drift out of listening to any music, too.

Craig and I went to see the movie, Notting Hill, about 6 weeks before we got married and the movie had the Alison Kraus version of "When You Say Nothing At All" in it.  I had heard and really loved the song earlier in the 90's when there was a digitally re-mastered version of the old Keith Whitley song made into a duet with Alison Kraus.

Craig and I both liked the song and decided that would be our song for our wedding.  And we decided we'd use the Keith Whitley version...because we kinda like originals.  :)

What does it mean to you?
For me, the meaning of a song is all in the lyrics.  I like a good melody, but if the words aren't meaningful, I don't buy into it.  
It's amazing how you can speak right to my heart
Without saying a word, you can light up the dark
Try as I may I could never explain
What I hear when you don't say a thing


The smile on your face let's me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes saying you'll never leave me
A touch of your hand says you'll catch me whenever I fall
But you say it best when you say nothing at all
Something I might have romanticized a bit about marriage before getting married was the idea that it could be so great to know someone so well that you don't have to talk all the time...or any of the time.  I don't know if Craig and I knew each other this well on our wedding day, but it was the kind of relationship I hoped we'd always have. 

I don't think we had it quite yet on the day we married.  At least not completely.  We were still so young, and understanding what someone says with their eyes, their smiles, their hands...not something that could be understood the same way.

How has the meaning changed since you first chose it?
All day long I can hear people talking out loud
But when you hold me near, you drown out the crowd
Old Mr. Webster could never define
What's being said between your heart and mine
Chorus twice:
The smile on your face let's me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes saying you'll never leave me
A touch of your hand says you'll catch me whenever I fall
But you say it best when you say nothing at all
Interestingly enough, over almost 13 years of marriage, and through the addition of 5 children, I think we're getting there.  I feel like having this song in the background of life has given us something to strive for through all of life's changes.

And I think that it's now true that we let each other know that we need each other through non-verbal cues.  And we live every day knowing leaving isn't an option either of us entertain.  Through all of life's ups and downs - job changes, financial problems and successes, parenting trials, welcoming and loving and raising children - we've been there to catch the other and build each other up through the years.

Won't you share a picture of you two dancing? (Doesn't have to be a wedding picture!)

I won't.  I'm sorry.  I don't have one.  I don't have a picture I can access anywhere that is just Craig and Me.  We really need to fix that.


  1. Great song ~ a favorite of mine too!

  2. I love this song. I'm also glad that I found someone else who prefers the original. Not that Alison's is bad, I just prefer originals too. :)

    Thanks for sharing your story!


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